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The Man in the Pew Show with Phil Mershon

Man in the Pew helps Christians build an unstoppable faith leading to freedom, connection, & kingdom impact. We do this through daily devotionals, weekly interviews, articles, challenges, groups, and other resources. History Man in the Pew started with a simple thought while Phil prayed on the beaches of Florida's Gulf Coast. Where do Christian men turn to find encouragement and inspiration during the week as they face battles at work, at home, and at play? What if there was a show bringing the voices of experts and everyday men into healthy conversations about the real issues all Christian men face? That vision started developing in January 2015 and has slowly formed into what you see now. My prayer in launching this show is that many men will find encouragement, inspiration and tips for becoming more like Christ in the parts of life that aren't usually discussed at church. Pastors may listen to find insights into how to care better for the men in their flock, but this show isn't primarily for pastors. This show is for "everyday" men led by everyday men who have something important to share with fellow believers. Some of these men are book authors and others will be relatively unknown outside their local sphere of influence. All of them have important things to say. Who is Phil Mershon? Phil Mershon is the founder of Man in the Pew, a ministry of Called to Worship. During the week he serves as director of events for Social Media Examiner, where he has served for nearly seven years in part-time and full-time roles. Phil is also a longtime worship leader, a former pastor, a jazz saxophonist, a songwriter, and a sports nut (basketball, football, and tennis). He has been married to Audrey for twenty one years and they have three children.
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Mar 13, 2021

Do you wonder if Jesus ever laughed? Does it feel incongruous that Almighty God might enjoy a belly laugh?

 

Most of the pictures we have of Jesus reveal a strong but serious man. After all, he drove out the moneychangers and regularly rebuked the Pharisees for their hypocrisy. He never wavered from his eternal mission to seek and save the lost.

 

But Jesus was fully man and fully God. As a result, he felt the full gamut of emotions. He wept over the death of Lazarus (John 11) and grew angry at the hard-hearted response of the religious leaders. He certainly bore all the fruits of the Spirit, including joy.

 

Robert Funk put it like this, “Jesus used humor and hyperbole to punch holes in pomposity … Part of Jesus’ charisma, was that he attended parties, drank wine, used irony, and hung out with outcasts.“

 

Portraying Jesus in His Humanity

Tim Washer, on episode 141, reminded me of the painting by Ralph Kozak which portrays Jesus laughing with his head tilted back in pure delight—perhaps even a belly laugh. This painting was inspired by Willis Wheatley, one of the first modern artists to see a side of Jesus that includes laughter and joy.

 

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/142

Mar 8, 2021

Do you find it easy or hard to laugh at life? The bible says laughter can be like medicine to the soul.

 

A study conducted by the University of Maryland found that laughter reduces stress, pain, and conflict. It literally makes the heart function better.

 

The Bible references laughter nearly 50 times. Laughter makes the heart cheerful and helps us cope with the unexpected., In Genesis 18, Sarah laughed when God promised something that seemed too good to be true—a son at the age of 80. When it came true, she named her son Isaac which means “he will laugh.”

 

It seems God has a sense of humor. Have you ever looked at a giraffe, a baboon, or a dolphin? Dolphins seem to be born to laugh with us. Monkeys laugh at us.

 

Tim Washer teaches laughter

In episode 141, Tim Washer and I discuss how laughter helps us get through life’s ups and downs. Tim studied improv under Amy Poehler, and has worked on Saturday Night Live, Conan, and Last Week Tonight with John Oliver. He’s also worked in marketing communications for IBM and now works as a virtual event speaker and emcee.

 

Tim regularly teaches marketers how to use humor and laughter as a way to discover new ideas. He explains that laughter helps us face hard things like a global pandemic or more personal issues such as brain surgery.

 

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/141

Mar 1, 2021

If I looked at your bookshelves, who would I presume has had the biggest influence on your life?

 

Thankfully the number of books you own by an author doesn’t necessarily translate to impact—otherwise, you might think John Grisham is my mentor. I do love a good fast-moving legal thriller, but I don’t plan to go into law or to write novels.

 

Outside of fiction and bible commentaries, you would find more books by Dr. Larry Crabb on my shelves. Some of them I’ve read multiple times. They have all impacted me, and in some cases transformed me.

 

Larry (he preferred we drop the doctor) passed away on February 28, 2021. I want to pause to honor a man who showed me how to follow Jesus.

 

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/140

Feb 20, 2021

Do you think it’s wrong to make money? Have you been taught that those who prosper financially must have done something wrong or evil?

 

Ray Edwards believes that we were all meant to prosper. For some our prosperity is a spiritual abundance that is accompanied by a vow of poverty. Most of us are called to greater prosperity than we’ve dreamed, but we’re afraid to pursue it because of faulty beliefs.

 

Introducing Ray Edwards

While I ultimately realized it wasn’t my calling to awaken the church out of economic lethargy, I’m happy to say that Ray Edwards is joining his voice with the likes of Dave Ramsey to call the church to prosper so that we might be a blessing to the world. Ray’s new book, PermissiontoProsper.com, serves as a clarion call to all believers to shed our debt and embrace our God-given mandate to be fruitful and multiply. 

 

Ray Edwards is a Communications Strategist, Copywriter, and the author of How to Write Copy That Sells. His podcast, The Ray Edwards Show, is consistently one of the top-ranked shows on iTunes and has been downloaded over 1 million times. Ray has worked on copy and marketing with some of the most powerful voices in leadership and business. He's helped generate an estimated $300 million in revenue for clients like Tony Robbins, Michael Hyatt, Dan Miller, Jeff Goins, Jack Canfield, Frank Kern... and many more. He's been featured on Forbes.com, SocialMediaExaminer.com, and Entrepreneur.com.


Ray was also the very first guest on the Man in the Pew show. Click here to hear that interview.

 

For full article and show notes, go here: https://maninthepew.com/gc90

Feb 19, 2021

Are you afraid of your imagination? Do you imagine you’ll get yourself into trouble if you dream too much?

 

The church and imagination

The Church has historically discouraged imagination out of a fear that we will violate the second commandment, “You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below” (Exodus 20:4 NIV).

 

This fear is somewhat merited. Many times our imaginations do get us into trouble. Aaron gave into the people’s demands to create a golden calf, even while Moses was on Mt. Sinai receiving the Ten Commandments! The danger is when we worship the objects of our imagination.

 

Fantasy and imagination

In my own life, I spent countless hours as a youth fantasizing and imagining myself flying, walking on the moon, or dating the girl of my dreams. When I took a recent personality test, I was even labeled as a dreamer.

 

Proverbs 14:18 (MSG) says, “Foolish dreamers live in a world of illusion; wise realists plant their feet on the ground.” Ecclesiastes 5:7 says, “Much dreaming and many words are meaningless.” 

 

While these warnings are merited, they miss something key: God made us in his image. When God thought up something in his mind he then spoke it into being. We were designed to do the same. 

 

At its core, imagination can release all kinds of possibilities and free us from many ailments.

 

For the full article and show notes, go to: https://maninthepew.com/gc89

Feb 18, 2021

You’ve heard the phrase, “Fake it ‘til you make it.” Does that apply to gratitude? Does that feel inauthentic to you? Maybe even like you’re lying?

 

Raised as a Christian, I was taught to never lie. So to suggest that I fake gratitude feels counter to my moral fabric. 

 

But researchers suggest that faking it may actually be a good strategy.

 

Dr. Alex Korb is a neuroscientist at UCLA and the author of The Upward Spiral. He explains: “You can turn a tendency toward a downward spiral of depression and anxiety into an upward spiral of joy and clarity in your life. Expressing gratitude activates serotonin production, which improves your mood and allows you to overcome bad habits, giving you more to be grateful for.”

 

Does the Bible teach you to fake it?

I hear that and wonder if the Bible supports this. We can actually see the Bible teaching this implicitly. In Psalm 103, David says, “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits” (v. 1). He’s reminding himself to praise God. He may not be feeling like praising God at the moment, but he has a long list of reasons to be thankful.

 

In Psalm 42, David asks, “Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me?” He answers himself by reminding himself about what will one day happen, “Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God.”

 

Let’s be honest, David doesn’t feel hopeful at this moment; he feels depressed and despondent. But he knows his mind controls his emotions, not the other way around.

 

Full article and show notes available at: https://maninthepew.com/gc88 

Feb 17, 2021

Did you grow up singing the Doxology every Sunday in church? If you did, what associations do you have? If you didn’t, how do you feel when you hear it?

 

In many liturgical churches, the Doxology is sung immediately prior to the offertory. In essence, we remind ourselves to “Praise God, from whom all blessings flow” before we return our gifts to him.

 

Whether the singing of the Doxology feels natural or arcane to you doesn’t really matter. The truth behind it demonstrates an important gratitude principle: gratefulness flows most easily when someone does something special, unexpected, and undeserved for us. And the corollary: gift-giving flows most naturally from a grateful life.

 

Secrets of Thoughtful Gift-Giving

I have three friends who are very good at gift-giving who showcase several ways we can all learn to give better gifts. As you hear these stories, think about people you know who are great gift-givers.

 

For the full article and show notes, go to https://maninthepew.com/gc87

Feb 16, 2021

How easy is it for you to keep your thoughts thankful, positive, and joyful? When Paul challenges us to “take captive every thought,” does that feel hard or easy?

 

If you’re like me, that feels impossible. My mind feels like that commercial with the cat-herding cowboy. As soon as I take one thought captive, all the other thoughts go scattering in all directions.

 

Of course, it’s not like that all the time. On good days I can sustain focused thought for hours and I can recount numerous reasons to be thankful. For example, I’m grateful to have a loving wife, amazing friends, gifted children, and countless books, adventures, and fond memories.

 

Toxic Thought Bombs

But it doesn’t seem to take a very large “toxic thought bomb” to make all those good thoughts dissipate. Dr. Caroline Leap actually describes it as hot air. When a new thought pattern hasn’t fully taken root—which takes a minimum of 21 days—it will turn into vapor if not cultivated to maturity.

 

That’s what happened recently when my wife and I started talking about finances. We started with prayer and level heads, but it didn’t take very long for me to become overwhelmed. 

 

In my Monday morning quarterback seat, I know and remember that God has always been faithful to us. I also know my wife loves me and that we have committed to weather every storm together. But on that night the stress was mounting and my thoughts started turning negative.

 

I wish I could tell you a story of a valiant recovery. The truth is I lost this skirmish, but I haven’t lost the battle. I’ve actually recovered more quickly than ever before.

 

For the rest of the show notes, see: https://maninthepew.com/gc86

Feb 15, 2021

What’s the longest range goal you’ve ever set? Did you accomplish your goal? Most of us lose the battle for gratitude because we don’t have the right plan.

 

Long-term battle plans

In England, they estimate it takes 250 to 300 years to build a cathedral. That’s a lot of planning and preparation.

 

At New College, Oxford beetles infested the oak beams in the dining hall. Trying to find replacement beams seemed impossible, except that the original architects planted oak trees with the express purpose of being used to replace the beams. When were those trees planted? Over 500 years prior to when they were needed.

 

I share these two stories to give you the perspective that your battles really aren’t that long and you would benefit from taking a much longer view of your life.

 

I shared on day 84 how I almost quit this Gratitude Challenge after only 80 days. 80 sounded like a big number until I read about the perseverance required to build a cathedral or win a military war.

 

Battle of Verdun

 

The battle of Verdun, in World War I, is the longest battle in recorded military history. Fought between France and Germany, over one million lives were lost in a battle that lasted 302 days. While the French ultimately recaptured their forts and villages, the battle was mired in deception, counterattacks, and heavy losses. 

 

Can you imagine going to the frontline in that war? The likelihood of survival doesn’t sound very high, but personal survival wasn’t the goal—victory was.

 

Battle for our minds

You’re fighting a much more significant battle when you fight for control of your mind. Toxic thoughts and negativity lead to defeat and make you susceptible to the attacks of the enemy.

Full article: https://maninthepew.com/gc85

Feb 14, 2021

Have you ever started a project only to find it feels pointless or a waste of time? Have you ever quit something just because it became too hard?

 

I have a confession to make. I almost quit this 90-Day Gratitude Challenge on day 80.

 

Why I almost quit the 90-Day Gratitude Challenge

On Day 72 my wife woke me in the middle of the night with some very troubling news. But I couldn’t comprehend what she was saying because I had taken some melatonin to help me sleep—a major issue for me I discussed on day 45. My brain was foggy and her words didn’t compute.

 

When I awoke the next morning I remembered that something significant had happened so I asked her about it only to discover it was worse than I feared. I froze.

 

While I can’t share specifics, suffice it to say it’s news that would make any parent panic. It’s like the call we received in 2019 from a stranger telling us that our daughter had been in a car crash. But this was worse.

 

I had already written and recorded a couple of episodes for the challenge, so I took a break from writing while we worked on the problem. But when it came time to start writing again the words stopped flowing. I went into my archives to find things I had written before that I could repurpose. That worked for a few days.

 

And then day 80 confronted me. I had nothing written or recorded. I spiraled into a new level of depression and felt stuck. In fact, I didn’t feel grateful and felt hypocritical telling others to be grateful, even though I knew that was part of my escape path.

 

For full article and show notes see: https://maninthepew.com/gc84

Feb 13, 2021

Do you feel appreciated at work? Do you know how to show appreciation to your co-workers?

 

Dr. Paul White and Dr. Gary Chapman did research to understand how the way we speak to one another at work makes a difference in the workplace culture. The result was a new work called The Five Languages of Appreciation.

 

In this episode, I walk through some of the things Dr. White learned and how we can help our companies become more grateful.

 

The Five Languages of Appreciation

Adapted from the 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, these categories reveal how we relate and show appreciation at work:

  • Words of affirmation - Shared by 46% of employees, many appreciate receiving verbal acknowledgment of their work and contributions to the team.
  • Quality Time - 26% of employees value quality time with co-workers and leaders. They probably won’t appreciate an email or sticky note as a primary way of communicating news, but instead, desire to talk in-person or directly.
  • Tangible Gifts - Only 6% of employees appreciate receiving a gift as the primary way of acknowledging performance. 
  • Physical Touch - In the workplace, a small percentage (<1%) of people find physical touch (high fives, handshakes, fist bumps) to be their primary language of appreciation. 
  • Act of Service - 22% of employees find great satisfaction when workers and leaders go out of their way to do something kind or assist with challenges without asking.

For the rest of the article and show notes, go to https://maninthepew.com/gc83

Feb 12, 2021

Have you ever received inauthentic gratitude or praise? How does that contrast with receiving authentic thanks?

 

We raise our children to say please and thank you, but it’s obvious when they don’t mean it. As they mature they learn to play the part and it becomes harder to tell if they mean it or not.

 

Dr. Paul White recently told me a story about a seminar he led for business leaders. The discussion turned to the importance of giving authentic appreciation. One leader asked him, “Isn’t it good enough that they believe you’re being authentic? After all, perception is reality, right?”

 

Dr. White responded that reality is reality and people can tell when you’re authentic. As a test of this brazened man’s approach, Paul asked the man’s co-workers if they would be likely to believe his words of praise when they went back to the office. They responded that they never have trusted anything he says.

 

Ouch!

 

For the full show notes, go here: https://maninthepew.com/gc82

Feb 11, 2021

When you approach God, how do you think about Him? Do you find it easy to thank him or does it feel like something you’re supposed to do?

 

When I was younger I saw God like a cosmic Santa who doled out gifts at his discretion. I wasn’t sure how Jesus and salvation fit into the equation, but I knew I wanted all the good stuff God promised.

 

As I grew older and saw God perform miracles, I grew in amazement at his power, his mercy, and his provision. But I still didn’t have categories for how to think about his wrath and judgment alongside his kindness and grace. I definitely couldn’t understand where talking donkeys fit into the world.

 

Our thoughts about God affect our thanks.

Larry Crabb asks the following questions about how we relate to God:

  • Do you see God as a distant ruler who only gets involved with the major issues of your life? 
  • Does he seem more like a watchmaker who started your life and is only needed when something is broken? 
  • Are you more like a spoiled brat or a penniless beggar
  • Do you demand he come through for you or do you expect him to pass you by—just like everyone else in your life?

 

The way we think about God affects the way we thank him and the expectations we have of his involvement in our lives. Our thoughts on prayer even impact how often and how long we pray.

For the full article and show notes, see: https://maninthepew.com/gc81

Feb 10, 2021

Do you know how to worship God? Sounds like a silly question, especially in a series on gratitude. But this is a vital question, “Do you really know how to worship?”

 

Seventy years ago A.W. Tozer lamented that Christians had more resources for knowing about God than ever in the history of the Church. Yet, worship had become a ritualistic program. Twenty-five years ago, James Boice lamented that the problem had become even worse.

 

Neither of these authors could’ve predicted the explosion of worship resources we’ve seen in the last two decades. We have more worship songs, websites, training courses and books than you can image. Worship leaders can even obtain degrees in worship from many different colleges and seminaries.

 

You could say we’re more educated about worship. Yet, I still ask the question, “Do we know HOW to worship?

 

The Church’s View of Psalm 95

 

The Church has used Psalm 95 as a call to worship (called the venite) since at least the 4th century. Many traditions even see Psalm 95 as creating a form for worship based on the three Hebrew words for the word “come.”

All this familiarity can cause one of two mistakes: 1) we just look for what makes us feel good in worship, and thereby ignore God’s stiff warnings in verses 7b and following; or 2) we miss God’s voice speaking to us and we start to worship the forms and rituals of worship (a most serious case of misplaced affections).

 

5 Ways Psalm 95 Teaches Us How to Worship

There are many things we can learn about worship from the 11 verses found in Psalm 95, but I want to focus on five:

For the full show notes, go here: https://maninthepew.com/gc80

Feb 9, 2021

Do you ever find it hard to focus and think clearly? Does it feel like your brain is a chaotic mess?

 

On day 31 we discussed the power of thankful thinking and how to make that a habit. Today I want to look at how our minds become chaotic and how we can use deep thinking to become more thankful.

 

This issue became very personal for me recently. My family received some news that triggered a spark of chaotic thinking that quickly unraveled months of discipline and focus. I woke up one day and couldn’t string together two coherent thoughts. I wound up taking a mental health day because I literally couldn’t think well enough to do even the most basic of tasks.

 

It was around this time when I heard Dr. Caroline Leaf describe chaotic thinking as the enemy of mental health. She compares deep thinking with overthinking, “Overthinking essentially taxes your ability to think deeply about any one thing, impeding your ability to examine and understand information.”  

 

She goes on to say, “Overthinking can put your brain and body into negative stress, which can result in feelings of anxiety, depression, and fear, and may even cause panic attacks. In fact, ruminating on negative thoughts is one of the biggest predictors of mental ill-health.”

 

Wow. That described me on that day.

 

How do we move from chaotic thinking to thankful thinking?

 

I’ve discovered at least six steps we can take.

For the full show notes, see: https://maninthepew.com/gc79

Feb 8, 2021

Do you spend time thinking about your mortality? If you do, does it fill you with gratitude?

 

If you’re like most modern Christians, you spend as little time as possible thinking about death. Unless you’re an estate planner, pastor, doctor, or mortician, you likely don’t spend a lot of time even thinking about mortality. Our youth-driven culture keeps us in the constant pursuit of life through technology and science.

 

Todd Billings, a pastor and theologian, found this thought pattern disrupted by a diagnosis of incurable cancer. In his book, The End of the Christian Life, Billings calls us to embrace our mortality in our daily life and faith. He says, “This is the journey of genuine discipleship, following the crucified and resurrected Lord in a world of distraction and false hopes.”

 

Memento Mori: Remember death

The latin phrase memento mori means to “remember death.” It reminds us that we are mere mortals and to never get too big a view of ourselves. It’s also a tremendous reminder to cherish every moment.

 

The phrase originated when victorious Roman generals returned from battle. While they walked the streets—receiving the adulation of the crowds—a servant followed the general and whispered, “Respice post te! Hominem te esse memento! Memento mori!” Translated, this means, “Look behind you! Remember that you are but a man! Remember that you will die!”

 

3 Ways to Remember Death that Lead to Gratitude

Contrary to our modern aversion to discussing death in a meaningful way (outside of dramatized news reports and movies), there is tremendous benefit that comes through thoughtful remembering. Here are three ways...

 

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/gc78

Feb 7, 2021

Do you ever find yourself ruminating over poor decisions you’ve made? Perhaps you become anxious over what might happen or what could have happened, and it makes you fearful.

 

I’ve experienced this recently. It feels like a fog envelops your mind and you can’t escape the negative thought cycles. A friend described it as a huge snowball that keeps gaining momentum as it rolls downhill—like an avalanche of thoughts. The only way to stop it is with the right strategies and outside help.

 

In The Fellowship of the Ring, J.R.R. Tolkein paints a picture of King Theoden getting caught in the mental web spun by Wormtongue. Theoden becomes increasingly incapacitated as he believes lies, and eventually, he can no longer think for himself.

 

Likewise, when we get caught ruminating over negative thoughts, we can find ourselves trapped in a web of our own making.

 

For complete show notes: maninthepew.com/gc77

Feb 6, 2021

Do you appreciate your life? What if you had a heart attack?

 

In this episode, I talk to Jackie Bledsoe about his near-death experience with a heart attack. We explore the profound role that gratitude plays in the recovery process.

 

The heart attack

At the age of 43, Jackie had a massive heart attack, known as a “Widowmaker.” He thought he could be dying and saw God orchestrate the lives of seven people to be at the right place at the right time to keep him alive. Several of them were supposed to be somewhere else, but in retrospect, it’s obvious God directed each of them to be there.

 

Jackie remains thankful daily as he knows he could have left his family without a husband, father, and son. He has a profound sense of mission as he knows God spared him for a reason.

 

The path to recovery

That doesn’t mean the road to recovery was easy. As a former athlete, Jackie had to learn to not push through the pain as the pain was a warning sign. But once his body recovered, he now has to tell his mind that he’s no longer injured. The body and mind don’t heal at the same speed!

 

Spiritually, he’s learning to remain on God’s spiritual heart surgery table. At times, he would prefer to get off and take things at his own pace. But after experiencing complete blockage in one of his major aortic valves, he understands the importance of allowing God to remove spiritual blockage from his heart (e.g. selfishness and pride). 

 

The Role of Gratitude in Recovery

Not only does Jackie practice daily gratitude, but he also treasures every moment knowing that most people don’t survive a widowmaker heart attack.

 

Like Jackie, I’ve had a near-death experience and know that when we remember that we could have died, it gives us many reasons to be grateful each and every day.

 

Researchers at Harvard University discovered that gratitude is a key contributor to recovering from a heart attack. Jackie practices daily gratitude by remembering three distinct things for which he’s thankful. He also regularly retells the story of his heart attack recovery.

 

The Spiritual Recovery Team

Just as God orchestrated seven people to save Jackie’s life, he’s also seen the importance of allowing key people into the spiritual heart surgery and the recovery process. We falsely believe we can do it by ourselves, but God designed us to help one another.

 

QUESTION: Who’s on your spiritual recovery team?

 

Who is Jackie Bledsoe?

Jackie Bledsoe is a bestselling author and international speaker who's reached over 100,000 people with The 7 Rings of Marriage.

 

He and his wife, Stephana, are the founders of Happily Married Couples, a marriage brand that helps couples better connect and communicate, so they can create marriages worth celebrating.

 

You may have seen Jackie on Good Morning America, ABC News, WTHR (NBC Indianapolis), The 700 Club, Moody Radio, The Huffington Post, Yahoo!, CBN’s Turning Point International, YouVersion's Bible App, HomeLife Magazine, and more.


You can learn more about Jackie on his blog, https://jackiebledsoe.com/, and get help for your marriage at https://happilymarriedcouples.com.

 

For more episodes, see: https://maninthepew.com  

Feb 5, 2021

Does it sometimes feel like God is severely punishing you? How do you respond when you are under duress?

 

Psalm 118 shows us that the way forward begins with thanksgiving. As we gratefully remember God’s past deliverance, we can pray for God to save us today and look forward to our final day of salvation.

 

But let’s be honest, singing songs of thanksgiving when you’re under duress or when it feels like you’re being disciplined doesn’t come naturally. It requires intentional discipline to remember what is true and it’s usually difficult.

 

5 Ways to be Thankful When Under Duress

Here are five ways Psalm 118 shows us to be thankful and how that leads to trust which increases our confidence and hope.

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/gc75

Feb 4, 2021

Do you know how the compound effect works? How about compounding gratefulness?

 

Investment strategies based on wishful thinking usually end in greater debt and disappointment. For example, purchasing a daily lottery ticket will rarely result in enough winnings to even pay for that decision. But that doesn’t stop millions of dreaming of picking the “big one.”

 

Likewise, a diet strategy based on periodic fasts and challenges will ultimately only lead to yo-yo dieting which tends to lead to higher weights, not lower. I speak from experience.


When it comes to gratitude, we can’t just make ourselves more grateful by making a conscious choice to stop worrying and be thankful.

 

What’s needed is a complete reversal in how we approach change.

Show notes: maninthepew.com/gc74

Feb 3, 2021

Are you looking for deliverance? Do you want God to set you free from internal problems or external enemies?

 

In Psalm 144, David asks God to rescue him from unnamed enemies. He provides a model for how believers can pray for deliverance in the midst of any opposition.

 

It starts with our mindset. Will we think positively or negatively? Will our thoughts be thankful or ungrateful?

 

Today’s episode explores what we can learn from David’s prayers for deliverance.

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/gc73

Feb 2, 2021

Does your family allow singing at the table? When’s the last time you sang at a business meeting?

 

Growing up, we weren’t allowed to sing at the table—or hum or whistle, for that matter. It went against all rules of etiquette. I didn’t question it at the time, but I wonder now who decided that rule?

And while there’s growing research and trends showing the benefits of singing at work and in all of life, we still tend to relegate singing to the culturally accepted places and times.

It’s time to change that. I believe we can all benefit from more singing.

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/gc72

Feb 1, 2021

Have you ever felt caged or trapped in your work? What if I told you that it’s more likely that you created the mental cage? Breaking out begins with gratitude.

Many factors influence job satisfaction, but in general, over half of the American workforce is dissatisfied with their job. Those numbers increase or decrease based on workplace culture, opportunities for advancement, recognition, and benefits. (Here’s one study of many.)

One element most of the research I saw ignored is our mindset. If we have an abundant and grateful mindset, we are far more likely to find satisfaction in our work. 

I can hear your voices now: “But Phil, you don’t know my boss.” Or, “My company has terrible benefits, and I feel stuck.” Or, “I haven’t had a raise in years, and my job doesn’t use my skills and abilities.”

You’re right. I don’t know what your situation is like, but I think there’s a different way to look at it.

Show notes: https://maninthepew.com/gc71

Jan 31, 2021

Do you enjoy growing a garden? If not, do you enjoy seeing beauty in nature or a carefully cultivated garden?

If I’m honest, I do not enjoy gardening. I have allergies, and I almost always have to stop early due to some kind of allergic reaction.

But I have one tree that I take great pride in, which I planted in my yard. We found a sapling growing where it didn’t belong and decided to strategically plant it. Now, it’s become a strong tree, able to withstand severe Kansas winds. Soon, it will provide significant shade for decades to come.

When it comes to replacing toxic thoughts, the process is similar to gardening. It involves not only pulling up the toxic weeds (er, thoughts) but also replacing them with new trees composed of good thoughts. 

A friend of mine calls his tree the tree of righteousness. I’m going to suggest that we plant and cultivate a tree of thankfulness in our minds and hearts.

Show notes: maninthepew.com/gc70

Jan 30, 2021

Do you find yourself staring at the success of others and wishing you were more like them? Does it make you jealous or feel like you’re not enough? If you’ve said yes, you’ve experienced the comparison trap.

In this podcast episode, I interview Ian Anderson Gray about his experience with the comparison trap. We discuss things like self-doubt, how we measure ourselves, and the importance of God’s truth.

Ian is the founder of the Confident Live Marketing Academy and is the host of the Confident Live Marketing Podcast. He helps entrepreneurs to level up their impact, authority, and profits by using live video confidently. As well as being a geek, husband, and dad to two kids, Ian is also a professional singer and lives near Manchester in the UK.

Ian was also a guest on episode 45, where we discussed the imposter syndrome, the wicked cousin to the comparison trap. Ian also has a fun giveaway ending on February 4, 2021.

We also explored comparison back on Day 46 of this Gratitude Challenge.

Be sure to listen to the very end for Ian’s fun new jingle for Man in the Pew.

Show notes: maninthepew.com/gc69

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